By Hot Chip Chick Team / September 21, 2024

This 21-year-old woman has always faced opposition from her mother when it comes to piercings, tattoos, and other forms of body modification.

Currently, she’s in a relationship with a boyfriend that her parents disapprove of—primarily due to his tattoos. Four months into their relationship, her mother stumbled upon a photo of them together. The moment she noticed the tattoos on his arms and face, she immediately decided she didn’t approve.

Her boyfriend’s outward appearance immediately gave him a negative reputation in her mother’s eyes, creating tension in their relationship.

She said, ‘The truth is, my mom isn’t aware of everything that’s happen. My boyfriend has faced significant challenges in his life, including past mistakes that resulted in a felony and struggles with addiction. However, he’s committed to his recovery and has truly transformed his life for the better.’

Her boyfriend was charged with a felony following a shooting incident, which he claims was an act of self-defense.

He’s genuinely one of the kindest and most respectful people I’ve ever met, always treating me with such care. However, I worry that if my parents learned about his past, they might not approve of our relationship.

Her boyfriend is clearly free now and has launched his own business. He confidently tells her that his future is bright and that his past felony won’t affect her life at all.

He acknowledges that his past experiences may hinder his job prospects in the future. This realization motivated him to start his own business, creating opportunities on his own terms.

Whenever she finds herself in an argument with her boyfriend, the thought of walking away and ending the relationship lingers in her mind. A key reason for this feeling is her concern about how she could ever properly introduce him to her parents.

“I see this harmful pattern and occasionally express frustration in ways I don’t really mean,” she shared.

To ensure our relationship endures, he has expressed that I must be ready to stand by him, regardless of my parents’ disapproval.

I find myself deeply worried about the possibility of losing him, yet I can’t help but feel the heavy weight of my parents’ judgment, which adds pressure to consider ending our relationship if they don’t approve.

Even though her boyfriend never forced her to decide, he hinted that he could assist her in persuading her parents. However, such offers don’t sound serious at all. 

Two big decisions stand in front of her: honor the one she loves or wait for the parent’s blessing.

What will you say to help this girl?